Drumroll...Size 6, but a deflated bubble...

Okay, I'm very happy, and I don't mean to complain, but I was sharing my excitement over this new size (as neurotic as I am - I tried on pants from 4 different stores to make sure they weren't just sized big...sigh - I am a head case) with my mom, she tells me that I should be careful - what if I put this weight back on - should I be buying that size - is it too tight (which it isn't, now the 4, that was snug, but the six was perfect)?  It kind of burst my little bubble.  I know she loves me and I know she's super excited for me, but why in the middle of that great news, would she say that?  I mean the last time I was a size six was in middle school.  I wasn't big in high school, but I wasn't a six!!!  DH has been very supportive and enthusiastic, my dad and brother have been as well.  My mom says she doesn't want me to become my MIL because she does talk about her RNY a LOT!!!  I have outside interests; I deliberately do not share everything so that she doesn't think I'm obsessed (her words, not mine).  I guess I just needed to vent.  Sorry about the lack of posts and then when I finally do post, it's whiny. 

For what it's worth, I think you guys are all doing AWESOME!  I read this board all the time.  Thanks for letting me bend your ears. 
Robyn

This is my theory on mother's-they feel compelled to keep on being "mothers' and "coaches" long after we cease to need that....so no matter what is going on-they've got to shift the perspective towards caution.  It's just what they do, they can't help it, and they don't mean anything by it (WE take it personally, but they really don't).

And, they are tougher than we think.  Last time my mom told me "It's not losing weight, it's keeping it off that is difficult, you MUST be diligent" I actually laughed and said "NO< REALLY?" because it's something I'd always wanted to say.....and lo and behold, she laughed right back at me.

 I finally figured out that Mom cannot stop being a Mother any more than I can stop wearing bluejeans and T-shirts-and for either of us to ask the other to do anything different really isn't fair....and no, none of it is personal towards the other one..

There-I saved you 100K in therapy. 

 

What is it about Mom's and their thoughtless comments??  My Mom comes out with zingers like that every once in a while and it hurts.  I know she doesn't mean to hurt me but it does none the less.  I am sorry your Mom hurt your feelings.  Hugs!

I say buy the size 4's!  OMG, I think I have socks bigger than a size 4 pair of pants!  You know you have a tool that will allow you to be in control of your eating and caloric intake.  She doesn't have a clue (and how could she?) how your tiny tummy works.  Keep working that tummy, girl!

Congrats on the tiny, single digit size!!!

Does your mom struggle with her weight?  If she does, then it might just be a natural reaction from someone that is used to the gain/lose cycle of dieting.  I'm super excited for you and think you should buy a ton of new clothes in size 6!!!!  You look fantastic and I'm sorry her comment rained on your parade.

I'm sure your mom didn't mean it the way it came out.  She is just a mom and sometimes they don't have their thinkers on!  My mom is that way and sometimes I am guilty of being that way with my kids.  I felt bad afterwards and thought to myself...DANG IT KIM!  But don't feel bad for talking about it thats what we are here for. 

I think you are doing an amazing job.  I just showed my DH your picture and told him how well you have been doing.  He was impressed! 

You just have to overlook mom's!  They are absent minded, overlookers sometimes.  But its the times when they are there when you need them that make us keep them around!  LOL!
Keep up that good work!
Hugs!
Kim

I am sooo happy for you!!!!!!  What a great feeling!  Sorry to hear that your Mom couldnt be more positive for you, I know that hurts.  For whats its worth we here are ALL super happy and positive for you!  Dont feel bad about whiny, we are here for the good and the whiny.  I dont post near as much as I should but I two read everyday.

BIG hugs for you

I wouldn't pay too much mind to Mom's musings, but your post made me think of another issue.  You're 4 pounds below goal weight, right?  At some point I presume we'll all stop losing.  It may be that you're not there yet.  My sister thought she was there and was stable for about a year, then lost another size.  When do you stop buying clothes a size smaller than you are able to comfortably wear now?  Does buying a size smaller help motivate you to keep up the exercise and eating like you should?  I say get the smaller size and, when they fit comfortably, be sure to wear them when you see your mom!

Way to go girlfriend.  You are doing amazing and you know that your OH family is excited for you.  That's why our friendships in our OH community are so important because those on the "outside" just simply "don't get it" and don't understand what we've gone through and are going through every day.  I'd say just let Mom's comment just go in one ear and out the other so to speak.  I'm sure she meant well!!

I think that is amazing!!  Don't let your mom get you down, you are doing fantastic!!!

Maybe it's not just my mom. Sometimes our mothers can't help but be themselves.  I love my mom dearly, but I can always count on her to take the wind out of my sail.  I have stopped asking her opinion or even sharing things with her that I know she will respond negatively to.  For example.. my WLS.  She has never totally supported me, but she is proud of the little bit of weight loss I have had pre-op.  If you have ever yo-yoed... your mom is probably st not sure the surgery is going to be a premanent success.  I know that is where mine teeters.  They seem to want us to prepare for the worse... that way... if we fail... we won't be hurt so bad.  BUT!!!!  We are not going to fail!!!  Good job and keep up the good work!!!